“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” ~Chinese Proverb
Often I tend to judge myself based on who I think I should be or ask myself if the “me” that can be stressed by everyday life is who I truly am. When this proverb popped up for me it was a great reminder that my stress does not define me unless I chose it to be so. I can work towards shifting my thoughts to reduce stress/tension, then I can reconnect with self. Working with my attention, focus and inner chatter can assist with this shift. Today I will be mindful of where my attention is and what I am telling myself about my experiences and work towards a more relaxed and serene approach.
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it.”
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.”
~ Eckhart Tolle
This rings very true for me. If I stop the thoughts after the initial feeling and refocus I am okay. It is only when I allow myself to think about a situation and how upset I am that it has not gone the way I needed/wanted it to go that I become anxious, depressed or down. By working with thoughts we can shift our mood.
I like the second quote as it helps to shift thoughts. I honestly believe that situations we find ourselves in always contain something for us to learn, shift or grow from. I start there and then move forward. At least in my best moments. ; )
“The natural ups and downs of life can either generate personal growth or create personal fears. Which of these dominate is completely dependant on how we view change.” ~ Michael A. Singer
I am rereading The Untethered Soul, by Singer and am loving it all over again. I have struggled with this concept, as I think we all do at times. In my worst moments I have considered changes, that do not follow “my plan”, a negative or I continually search for what I could have done differently, better or search for anything I should have avoided. In my best moments, I see change as a shift, growth or divine intervention. I search for gratitude and peace in what I might consider chaos or the unknown, knowing that there are ups/downs and constant change. Often it is a quiet mind, observation of thoughts and faith that keep me on a path to serenity.